Can you believe Valentine’s Day is already around the corner? It might seem like the best thing to do is to hide away until it passes, but there’s a better way to approach it. Instead of rolling your eyes or ignoring it, try to embrace it as what it really is: a fun, made-up day to celebrate love. And why not make this day about your love for yourself?
Think about it—how often do we make a conscious effort to care for ourselves, whether as a couple or as individuals? Yes, we should prioritize self-care more often, but this day is already on the calendar, so why not use it? Here are five ways to make Valentine’s Day one that’s all about you.
Tip 1: Acknowledge that Valentine’s Day may bring some sadness
The next week or so might stir up emotions, and that’s okay. Valentine’s Day can bring memories of past relationships, and sometimes it might even make us feel more isolated, especially if you’re going through a divorce or major life change. It’s important to recognize that this is normal. You may feel a sense of loss or sadness, but here’s the good news: the day doesn’t have to be about those feelings. By shifting your perspective, you can use Valentine’s Day as a time to focus on yourself, whether it’s relishing time alone or being surrounded by people who bring you joy.
This year, you have the opportunity to decide how you want to spend the day. Set an intention to make it about you, whether that means embracing solitude or enjoying the company of friends and family. Let’s explore how to do that.
Tip 2: Pamper Yourself – No Need to Break the Bank
Self-care doesn’t have to come with a hefty price tag. You can create a soothing, relaxing experience at home. Here’s how:
- Brew a calming cup of tea (chamomile is a winner) or pour yourself a glass of wine.
- Run a hot bubble bath (DIY bubble bath anyone?) and light some candles.
- Curl up with a book or magazine you’ve been meaning to read.
- Set a cozy mood with a coffeehouse playlist or just enjoy some peaceful silence.
- Slip into your favorite comfy pajamas or a soft t-shirt.
These simple touches can turn your home into a spa-like haven for the evening. Take the time to unwind, relax, and rejuvenate.
Tip 3: Treat Yourself to Something Special
If your budget allows, why not go ahead and splurge a little? Valentine’s Day is only one day, after all. Treat yourself to something you’ve been wanting. You could go all out with a spa day—think a mani-pedi or massage—or pick up a little something special you’ve been eyeing, whether it’s clothing, accessories, or even a meal at a trendy new restaurant. Often, we focus on others, and we forget to indulge ourselves. This Valentine’s Day, give yourself permission to enjoy something that makes you feel good.
Tip 4: Have Fun, Alone or with Friends
If pampering isn’t your thing, find another way to enjoy yourself. Rediscover hobbies you’ve set aside, or explore new activities.
- Love being outdoors? Call up a friend and go for a hike, play tennis, or toss a frisbee in the park. If the weather’s right, pack a picnic.
- Prefer indoor activities? Check out a new movie, go bowling, or enjoy a night at a DIY class like pottery, painting, or woodworking.
- Need to release some energy? Try axe-throwing or visiting a rage room for a fun, cathartic experience.
Remember, movement is powerful. Whether it’s yoga, a walk in nature, or any form of physical activity, it can help clear your mind and relieve stress. Plus, it’s a great way to feel more grounded during this time.
If you’d prefer a quieter day, indulge in a movie marathon of your favorite nostalgic films that remind you how far you’ve come. The point is to find something that lifts your spirits—on your own or with others.
Tip 5: Spread Kindness to Others
Celebrating yourself doesn’t mean you can’t spread some love to others. Consider performing a small act of kindness:
- Offer to babysit for a friend or family member so they can enjoy a date night.
- Run errands for someone close to you to help alleviate their stress.
- Volunteer your time at a local shelter or food bank. Giving back can be a meaningful way to spend your day, help your community, and even meet new people.
You could also donate clothes or other items you no longer need. These acts of kindness will not only help others but will also shift your focus away from any sadness or frustration you may feel on Valentine’s Day.
A Shift in Perspective for a Fresh Start
As Valentine’s Day approaches, take a moment to assess where your heart and mind are. Then, make plans that reflect what you need, whether that means enjoying solitude or spending time with loved ones. By intentionally carving out this time for yourself, you’re setting the foundation for a healthier mindset as you navigate life after divorce or any other major change.
This year, be kind to yourself. Use Valentine’s Day to focus on your own well-being. Remember, you matter. Your needs are important, and you deserve love—especially from yourself. By embracing this time of self-care, you’ll be better equipped to move forward with resilience and a sense of purpose. Plus, showing up as the best version of yourself will not only benefit you but also be a great role model for your kids. They’ll learn from your strength and how to cope with change.
Use this holiday as a reminder that you are lovable and worthy of self-care. Treat yourself with the same kindness and love you show to others, and you’ll begin to anticipate what’s next in your life with excitement, not fear. After all, you deserve to thrive, not just survive!
